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Photo: The Art Gallery of Ontario, by Robyn Lam
"You don't have to see the full staircase - just take the first step."
Martin Luther King

I am a registered psychotherapist currently working with adults in the Toronto and Vancouver areas on issues related to anxiety, life transitions, and interpersonal relationships. If you would like to discuss potential therapeutic options, please contact me via email or phone to set up a free 20-minute phone consultation. This initial conversation will hopefully help you learn whether I can offer what you are looking for at this time. You can read more about how to make an appointment and my fee schedule here.

If you have more questions about psychotherapy and whether it is right for you, please read on with Navigating Therapeutic Success.

You are welcome to learn more about my credentials and approach here, before making a decision to contact me.

When you're ready (and that first step can seem like such a leap), let's have a conversation. It may seem daunting at first. Sometimes, when we find a way, a will can become much easier to find.


Simple and succinct animated explanation of emotions and our complex relationship with them.

The video is made from Emotion Focused Therapy perspective, a therapeutic framework for working directly with emotions developed by Dr. Les Greenberg at York University (Canada) and his (ex)collaborator, Dr. Sue Johnson (both of whom I have trained with).

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Source: Pool, E., Brosch, T., Delplanque, S., & Sander, D. (2015). Stress increase cue-triggered "wanting" for sweet reward in humans. Journal of Experimental Psychology: Animal Learning and Cognition, 41(2), 128-136.

Stress can increase reward pursuits: This has traditionally been seen as an attempt to relieve negative affect through the hedonic properties of a reward. However, reward pursuit is not always proportional to the pleasure experienced, because reward processing involves distinct components, including the motivation to obtain a reward (i.e., wanting) and the hedonic pleasure during the reward consumption (i.e., liking). [...] Results showed that compared with participants in the stress-free condition, those in the stress condition mobilized more effort in instrumental action when the reward-associated cue was displayed, even though they did not report the reward as being more pleasurable.

What it means: when you're stressed out, there's more of a desire to "get" something that you like (i.e. shopping, food, drugs, TV shows, etc.), even if by the time you get it, it doesn't seem any more pleasurable than usual. Rather than admonishing yourself for this natural response, or fighting against its mechanism, it may be helpful getting your brain to associate certain "healthy" (or preferred) things as rewards (perhaps through repeated pairing of these things with successful completion of a task) in case you feel the need to indulge. It'd require much less energy in the long run to use a system already in place to your advantage.

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